I want to be a woman with a career, a husband, and family,but I will not judge those women around me who don’t. In today’s world, girls experience constant pressure to look and behave in specific ways. This pressure comes from peers, family, and most notably, the media and internet. The media portrays women to be a certain way and that being anything else makes you an outcast. This often means that a lot ofus feel forced to change who we are to fit society’s ideals. Society puts pressure on women to want to be wives and mothers and expect them to be superwomen with jobs. They always have to look perfect, otherwise, they getjudged if they don’t. Yet, if a girl says she just wants to be a housewife or atrophy wife, the whole world groans and rolls their eyes.
Whenever I hear women say, “I don’t really get along with other women usually,” or “I’m not friends with too many women becausethey’re too much drama,” I can’t help but cringe. I have definitely said similarthings in the past, but I am trying to learn to grow and learn more about LOVE and mutual respect between women.
Have you ever been drunk at a bar or club and gone into the lady’s and bonded with another woman? “Girl, your boobs look SO GOOD IN THAT DRESS” or “I love your hair, your fringe is soooo cute!” & “You look so HOT!” Automatically,you become best friends for those few minutes. So, my question to all your girlies is, why can’t we always be this way with each other? We are women, we go through the same things, inequality, sexism and so much more. We need tofight this together. It takes way more energy to judge another woman than to befriend her or even just give her some support. Why are we so threatened by other women? We should never hate on other women. Ever.
After years of experiencing all kinds of female relationships, both good and bad, I’ve asked myself the same question over and over again: Why can’t all women just be nice to each other? Why is it that we feel so threatened by the way another woman dresses, speaks or acts that we feel like it’s our job to play polite police? Why is it that sometimes it seems easier for us to say what we think is wrong than all the wonderful things that are right? Why are we so jealous, as a sex we should be helping and pushing each other to be the BEST versions of ourselves, we should be each other’s greatest allies, not each other’s greatest competition. Let’s be real: none of us are perfect, so why judge each other at all? Us gals need to support each other through and through. If we want men to treat us with respect, then we need to treat each other with respect. We need to stop calling each other sluts, and whores, and bitches. It just gives men permission to call us those things.
Turning against each other and bringing other women down iscounter-productive and a waste of time. The effort you’re spending making surea fellow female co-worker/friend/acquaintance isn’t doing better than you areis effort you could have spent making sure you’re the best support you can befor them. We need to stop viewing other women as our enemies, because they’renot. We’re all in this together, ladies! And we need to start acting like it.
xoxo Laima Bean